Change is vulnerable, and scary. Some pieces of who we are have learned to carry the burden of keeping us safe from perceived threats. This can cause difficulty in a few ways. 1 – it can make it hard to do the prompts and activities as these parts of our personality have learned to deter us and 2 – it can make it difficult to have clarity when you are seeking deeper understanding of who you are. Answer? Get curious. 

Your insides are like a layered cake. With each bite you get some of each layer. This is important to understand as many things can be “true” for you while seemingly contradictory. All the answers you need exist inside you and the spirit that created you. Reality is a combination of different layers of our being. 

First Layer – The Experience: This is the surface of our being, it’s the experience we are having. In this layer we are informed by and driven by whatever that experience is until we learn to do different. Note your feelings, note sensation in your body, what is going on in your mind. Focus on whatever is most obvious and sit in that sensation/thought/feeling.

Second Layer-  The motivation: This layer is where we analyze our circumstance, threats are identified, and an experience is created. In this layer we want to work to understand the reason behind the experience our insides are offering us. What is it distracting you from? What about what you are doing or trying to do is scary to it? When in your life did it learn that “this” was scary? How is it trying to protect you? If it stopped doing this, what is it afraid is going to happen? 

Third Layer – The Right Now Needs of Your “True Self”: Given the space from the experience you have likely created just by looking AT it instead of being in it, it will likely be easier now to ask yourself “what do I need in this moment?” Listen and respond. This might be moving toward what you originally intended, or it might mean letting that original agenda go for now to adjust for what you really need. 

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